You used to be a challenge for her. You had a very high value and she was initially irresistibly attracted to you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I am preparing to make a wild guess here, but could it be that as time went on, you became less and less of a challenge for her? And could it be that right now, you are absolutely no challenge for her? And also that she realizes if she wanted to, at any time she could get you back again and wrapped around her little finger by simply saying the word?
Now I'm going to be crude here, but as you may already know, to develop into a challenge again you have to show to your ex-girlfriend that her sexuality has no control over you any more. Contemplate what it's like when you're stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. After which consider what it's like when you keep on doing it (as quite a few guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You're suggesting to the woman that you're a low-value guy without any other dating alternatives.
She will not respect you again until you refuse her lovemaking power over you. Fortunately you're doing that now by not directly corresponding with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
Be sure to stay 100% rigid with your communication cut-off. Don't be "buddies" with her, because that rewards your ex with the continued consent of power over you while providing her a convenient reason to stay split up. (She justifies that she is letting you down easy this way, assuaging any culpability she may feel.)
However, you should definitely keep her locked in with the help of your things. In all likelihood lots of your belongings are at her residence, and vice versa. She may also owe you money as well. She may get a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you would like all of it back again.
The very best answer to this is simply "No, not yet. The rationale is because her possessing your things (and you holding onto hers) is still locking you two in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to provide her the psychological closure that would be caused by settling your accounts.
For the up coming 3 weeks, you must fully acknowledge -- and embrace -- the idea that you're an independent person now. Take what transpired with your ex-lover and learn from it. You have a great chance to revolutionize your life which will ultimately allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.
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